Persons who are considered to be bisexual are attracted to members of both sexes, but this doesn't mean that they feel the need to be with a man and a woman at the same time. Just like straight or gay people, the vast majority of bisexual men and women will want a monogamous relationship. When it comes to marriage, a bisexual may end up with a partner of either gender. If a woman marries a man it does not mean that she is straight, and by the same token, by marrying a woman, will not make her gay. The person that they marry will be the one they are in love with as a person, and may or may not have anything to do with the person's gender
- Remember that, to a bisexual person, gender becomes more like hair color in relation to attraction and desirability. The fact that they can be attracted to men and women is - to them - no stranger or more threatening than the fact that you can (presumably) be attracted to both blond hair and brown hair. It does not follow that either one of you need "both" to be happy.
- A majority of the bisexual community identify themselves with the LGBT community. Some bisexual people, on the other hand, do not feel that they belong to either the lesbian, gay or straight community, and feel that they should have their own and separate community.[4] Some bisexuals experience vulnerability in feeling that they don't fit in with the lesbian, gay, or straight community. Bisexuals are not "confused" about their sexual identity, but they do often experience confusion about which community they "fit in."
- Remember that even though bisexual people are attracted to both sexes, this doesn't mean they are attracted to everyone. They have limits and standards, just like everyone else does. By the same token, do not ask your partner if they "prefer sex with men or women". If you are in a relationship with them, you must always assume that they prefer you.
- Don't assume that because they're bisexual that they will necessarily go for the easier option, or that they can't understand the difficulty of being a gay/lesbian in a heterosexual society - they may also not be prepared to form a durable opposite-sex relationship. Bisexual people cannot choose to be straight, nor are they just denying that they are gay; they have about as much choice when it comes to who they are attracted to or fall in love with as anyone else.[3]
- If your motivations for dating a bisexual are just for some sexual fantasy, then be up front about it with your potential partner before the relationship develops.
- Don't ever tease them about being bisexual. They may just laugh it off, but inside you may be hurting them or making them feel insecure. So unless they actually tell you it's okay, don't tease them.
- Try not to be extra cautious around them - this will make them feel insecure or annoyed. Just treat them like a person - don't avoid a certain topic just because they are bisexual.
- A bisexual person may actually be a bit confused at your inability to be attracted to both sexes. This does not mean that you give of homosexual or heterosexual "vibes".
